>So a friend and I were facebook chatting recently and in the midst of the whirlwind of multitasking that I was doing at the same time I was hit by a bomb- Okay I’m being melodramatic, but this special education journey series I am doing on the blog has me in a “flow” and I can’t seem to change persona.
Seriously though when you are writing an email, speaking on the phone with the person dictating that email, trying to locate a file to attach to said email, ignoring someone who is sending text after text in a row AND chatting with someone on facebook it takes a doozy to make you hone in the focus on that facebook chat.
She casually asked “so hows the marriage counseling going?”
Now being that we are not currently in marriage counseling (to my knowledge) I sort of blew the question off assuming she must also be multitasking and meant to ask someone else on chat that question. My monosyllabic response of “huh?” prompted her to clarify with “you know that engage thing or whatever its called at your church that you always check in on foursqaure at”
AHHHH–yes–ok not “marriage counseling” but I suppose I could see why the confusion. But what stunned me was my own defensive knee jerk reaction to deny “being in marriage counseling.” Like if we were in marriage counseling it would be a BAD thing or something.
No Jas and I are not in marriage counseling–we are getting a tune up, we are strengthening our rope, we are spending some intentional time focusing on us. We are becoming Re-Engaged with one another
Being the parents of 2 AMAZING kids, (one with the special needs of autism) puts a certain strain on a marriage-so its important to not get so wrapped up in the parenting aspects of what we do together as a team that we lose track of the team itself-WE will be coming up on 11 years of marriage here in February and I can’t wait to see what the next 11 years hold for is. We have traveled through valleys, plateaus and peaks together and there are many more of all of those to come. We just need to get that tune up so we can weather them to our best potential.
I love my husband with all of my heart-I really do
“I wish you were inside my head and could hear EVERY thing I am thinking and not just the stupid words that come out of my mouth” Jason Geroux’s January 2011 entry for Husband of the Year Award (HOTYA)
He makes me smile both inside and out, he is my best friend.
>LOVE…..And this is Lisa by the way, I'm too lazy to sign out and in again on google.
>I see why that might be jarring, but honestly, I think that everyone in all marriages should be in counseling. I think part of the problem is that people don't seek counseling until there is a problem. Jason and I aren't in counseling because we don't have extra cash or time to make it work right now, but I regularly think of our relationship as a project that needs work. I adore my husband (pain in my ass that he is), but I don't think I could live with ANYONE for 9 years without some regular fine-tuning.
>Elizabeth–EXACTLY– I mean I know people that put more effort into maintaining their a/c with monthly filter changes then they do maintaining the health of their marriage..so thats why I was so shocked at my guttural reaction of the idea of counseling being "bad".. there really should not be that stigma attached to it